The first psychotherapy appointment is primarily introductory and aims to answer any questions or concerns the person or couple may have about therapy; and the person’s or couple’s goals or hopes for change as a result of therapy; and to determine whether I can meet these needs.
The first session also indicates the fit between therapist and client – a very important factor in healing. It is hoped that clients would feel heard and understood; gain a sense of my style and approach to therapy; and get my opinion about his or her goals and how they would be achieved.
Subsequent sessions unfold collaboratively according to the uniqueness of the client and his or her personal goals and point along life’s journey. While the client does the actual work – introducing concerns, self-challenges, goals, and personal explorations - I create a safe, respectful, and empathic environment so that such work is possible. I believe we all have an innate wisdom that, with help, can be accessed so that a client can move toward integration and wholeness.
I provide individual psychotherapy to adults and adolescents. I use an experiential, Emotion-Focused approach to therapy. I treat people with compassion, strive to listen deeply, and to create a genuine and trusting environment, so that clients can fully explore and confront their toughest concerns and difficulties, discover the possible, and invest in themselves with confidence.
Every client is unique and so is the connection between the therapist and the client. Your needs will drive the therapy and the relationship, while I will guide you through your process in order to help you experience, articulate, clarify your own emotions. We'll find choices where there seem to be none, and move toward change.
I also works with people who simply seek to understand themselves better, to discover their passion, grow to their potential, and live a meaningful and compelling life.
Couples therapy addresses challenges with closeness, distancing, sharing of responsibility, negotiation, and compromise. The goal is to help people achieve genuine intimacy. As a result of couples therapy, people grow and deepen their relationship, learn to communicate effectively and really hear one another, attain support, and to discover how the relationship is a vehicle for growth and challenge in achieving the meaningful life they want. All couples are welcome – married, common-law, couples in same-sex relationships, and those either living together or separately.
The Emotion-Focused approach to couples therapy is based on the recognition for the need for close, secure and safe intimate relationships throughout one’s life. The belief is that the problem in a relationship is the negative “dance” the couple gets stuck in, and there is no blaming of either partner. Understanding the negative cycle allows the couple to choose more effective and profound patterns of connection, to create safety and build trust between them, and thus to deepen their bond and their intimacy.